Wow a new year! This year is not starting out as well as I hoped and it is already day 2.
We saw Char on New Year's Eve. We were shopping at Palmer's and I looked up and there she was. She looked up and it was like deer in headlights and she proceeded to turn around and pretend to look in the case. Whatever Char. I get the hint you want nothing to do with me. Message received loud and clear.
We went up to see my in-laws for New Years Day. Before we got there we got a phone call from Toria's grandmother and she told us that her grandfather had his foot amputated. Long story short, it was the most awkward hospital visit ever. I have not seen these people in 13 years. Why her dad did not bring her is beyond me. He is such an ass.
Other than those two incidents we had a great time in Buffalo. Now off to work tomorrow. :)
Monday, January 2, 2012
Tuesday, December 27, 2011
December 27, 2011
Where the heck has the time gone? Well Char is suing us for support. Not going to say too much about it right now as I am not sure what I can say or not say. The short story is that the ball is in her court.
It has been five months since we have seen Char. We keep on trying to talk to her, but the man she is living with refuses to let us talk to her. I texted Chris (the man she is living with) and asked him to tell her to call us as we do not have a number for her. She (I am presuming as that is what the text said) texted me back, but I did not hear my phone go off. About an hour after the text she calls me. I proceed to tell Char about Aunt Laurie and Chris kept on trying to butt in. I repeatedly told him that this was none of his business and that I was talking to Char. All I wanted to get tell her is that Aunt Laurie died, we did not know any information, once I got information I would tell her and that I did not want a scene at the wake and/or funeral. I could not get two words out to Char and he would try to butt in. After about the third time he said "This phone call is done" and hung up on me.
WTF? I have no way of contacting Char as I have to go through this asshole. Something is not right there. I have a strange feeling about this. Can't say anything in court because I really do not think that gut feelings are evidence in a case.
We will have to wait and see at the hearing on January 26th. ARGH!!!
It has been five months since we have seen Char. We keep on trying to talk to her, but the man she is living with refuses to let us talk to her. I texted Chris (the man she is living with) and asked him to tell her to call us as we do not have a number for her. She (I am presuming as that is what the text said) texted me back, but I did not hear my phone go off. About an hour after the text she calls me. I proceed to tell Char about Aunt Laurie and Chris kept on trying to butt in. I repeatedly told him that this was none of his business and that I was talking to Char. All I wanted to get tell her is that Aunt Laurie died, we did not know any information, once I got information I would tell her and that I did not want a scene at the wake and/or funeral. I could not get two words out to Char and he would try to butt in. After about the third time he said "This phone call is done" and hung up on me.
WTF? I have no way of contacting Char as I have to go through this asshole. Something is not right there. I have a strange feeling about this. Can't say anything in court because I really do not think that gut feelings are evidence in a case.
We will have to wait and see at the hearing on January 26th. ARGH!!!
Sunday, October 30, 2011
October 29, 2011
Well it has been a week since Char went to DSS and threatened to sue us for support. We have not heard anything from DSS or from Char. Not a peep.
Jaime and I have decided that we are going to deal with things as they happen. We cannot figure out what Char is going to do or not to do. I don't think Char even knows.
Jaime is still looking for a job. He has put out a bunch of apps/resumes but nothing yet. Cross our fingers that he finds something after the first of the year. If any of you have any leads, let me know.
Toria and Jaimison are doing great and very busy.
Jaime and I have decided that we are going to deal with things as they happen. We cannot figure out what Char is going to do or not to do. I don't think Char even knows.
Jaime is still looking for a job. He has put out a bunch of apps/resumes but nothing yet. Cross our fingers that he finds something after the first of the year. If any of you have any leads, let me know.
Toria and Jaimison are doing great and very busy.
Tuesday, October 25, 2011
October 25, 2011
I have no idea where the time has gone.
To catch you up on some stuff. Char is still MIA. She is now telling anyone that wants to listen that she wants to come home and that we kicked her out. We have asked that she talk to us about what happened and she refuses to do so and says that she does not know what to say or that she has to think of what to say to us. That started about two to three weeks ago. Her last email to me stated that she was fine, had an apartment with friends and had a nanny job. All lies. She has also told people that she went to New York for school, but had a bad experience and came back. Another lie.
I am not sure what is going on with her. We went to Camp Cutler this past weekend and she was there working (which I was very happy to see). It was so hard being so close (the closest in three months) and not being able to do anything. I would like to know what is going on in her head. Jaime and I have both said we would support her in anything she wanted to do.
Part of me wishes I could just be in a room with her, but the other part knows that I am never going to get the full story. Everyone that she has talked to gets sucked into her lies. If only I could have a magical power that would let me know if she is being sincere. She has told us lie after lie. I have no idea what to believe now.
We still have not started the evaluation for Toria. We are just waiting for insurance approval. Wait, wait, wait. That is another reason why we need to resolve a lot of things with Char before she can move back home. Anytime you bring up Char's name, Toria gets really anxious. We are finding out that Char talked Toria into taking the blame for a lot of stuff. I feel awful about that (not saying that Toria was always 100% innocent, no way she had some input in some things). Right now she is doing okay. She had a little bump in the road with her grades, but we are hoping that is getting ironed out.
Jaimison is doing good. It broke my heart that he does not want anything to do with Char. He had no interest in seeing her at Cutler and even put down in a project that he had one sister.
We have tried over and over again for Char to have a relationship with Toria and Jaimison. We have told her that we understand that she is upset with us, but it is not fair to the both of them that she is ignoring them.
I hope that Char finds what she is looking for. I personally do not think she wants to come home. She has had multiple times that she could have talked to us. I really don't know what happened. The week before she left I thought we had really good talk. I explained to her why I needed her to call if she was going to be late (so she did not wake us up), that I was excited for her going to MCC, volunteering at the Middle School if possible after camp and stupid me believed that she was happy and excited too. I guess I got played yet again. I don't know what happened in that week. In one week I lost my daughter. Maybe it was happening for a while and I just could not or would not see it. All I know is that I don't know who this person is.
If you see her on Facebook or even in person, please do not bring any of this up. Some of my friends have and she will not talk to them. She has pretty much ignored anyone that has contact with us.
To catch you up on some stuff. Char is still MIA. She is now telling anyone that wants to listen that she wants to come home and that we kicked her out. We have asked that she talk to us about what happened and she refuses to do so and says that she does not know what to say or that she has to think of what to say to us. That started about two to three weeks ago. Her last email to me stated that she was fine, had an apartment with friends and had a nanny job. All lies. She has also told people that she went to New York for school, but had a bad experience and came back. Another lie.
I am not sure what is going on with her. We went to Camp Cutler this past weekend and she was there working (which I was very happy to see). It was so hard being so close (the closest in three months) and not being able to do anything. I would like to know what is going on in her head. Jaime and I have both said we would support her in anything she wanted to do.
Part of me wishes I could just be in a room with her, but the other part knows that I am never going to get the full story. Everyone that she has talked to gets sucked into her lies. If only I could have a magical power that would let me know if she is being sincere. She has told us lie after lie. I have no idea what to believe now.
We still have not started the evaluation for Toria. We are just waiting for insurance approval. Wait, wait, wait. That is another reason why we need to resolve a lot of things with Char before she can move back home. Anytime you bring up Char's name, Toria gets really anxious. We are finding out that Char talked Toria into taking the blame for a lot of stuff. I feel awful about that (not saying that Toria was always 100% innocent, no way she had some input in some things). Right now she is doing okay. She had a little bump in the road with her grades, but we are hoping that is getting ironed out.
Jaimison is doing good. It broke my heart that he does not want anything to do with Char. He had no interest in seeing her at Cutler and even put down in a project that he had one sister.
We have tried over and over again for Char to have a relationship with Toria and Jaimison. We have told her that we understand that she is upset with us, but it is not fair to the both of them that she is ignoring them.
I hope that Char finds what she is looking for. I personally do not think she wants to come home. She has had multiple times that she could have talked to us. I really don't know what happened. The week before she left I thought we had really good talk. I explained to her why I needed her to call if she was going to be late (so she did not wake us up), that I was excited for her going to MCC, volunteering at the Middle School if possible after camp and stupid me believed that she was happy and excited too. I guess I got played yet again. I don't know what happened in that week. In one week I lost my daughter. Maybe it was happening for a while and I just could not or would not see it. All I know is that I don't know who this person is.
If you see her on Facebook or even in person, please do not bring any of this up. Some of my friends have and she will not talk to them. She has pretty much ignored anyone that has contact with us.
Saturday, August 27, 2011
Can't believe summer vacation is almost over!!!!
Where the heck did the summer go? It just seems like yesterday that I was blogging about Charlene graduating. On that note. . .
We have not seen Char since July 28th. She got really upset with us when she was home from Cutler because we asked her if she called MCC about her financial aide and left. The rest of the time at Cutler (approximately two weeks) she did not come home, but supposedly stayed at her boyfriend's house (this is according to postings on Facebook). When she was supposed to be done with Cutler she stayed another week for a inner city camp that was held there. Normally I would be very proud that she took it on herself to get another job, but it would have been nice for her to tell us. We had to find out by her snotty friend about it.
She finished that camp on the 21st. She is supposedly staying at a friend's house. She will not talk to us at all and is telling everyone that we kicked her out of the house. God knows what she is telling the people she is staying with.
Toria and Jaimison are doing good ironically. Toria has been working on remodeling her room and is starting to paint. Jaimison is happy that he got a skateboard ramp for his birthday. We are anxiously waiting for the school year to start.
We have not seen Char since July 28th. She got really upset with us when she was home from Cutler because we asked her if she called MCC about her financial aide and left. The rest of the time at Cutler (approximately two weeks) she did not come home, but supposedly stayed at her boyfriend's house (this is according to postings on Facebook). When she was supposed to be done with Cutler she stayed another week for a inner city camp that was held there. Normally I would be very proud that she took it on herself to get another job, but it would have been nice for her to tell us. We had to find out by her snotty friend about it.
She finished that camp on the 21st. She is supposedly staying at a friend's house. She will not talk to us at all and is telling everyone that we kicked her out of the house. God knows what she is telling the people she is staying with.
Toria and Jaimison are doing good ironically. Toria has been working on remodeling her room and is starting to paint. Jaimison is happy that he got a skateboard ramp for his birthday. We are anxiously waiting for the school year to start.
Monday, June 20, 2011
Update on Char
Good news is that Char will be graduating. There really is no bad news, just a long day.
Called the principal twice and many versions of the teachers story and we got what we needed. Found out that the teacher never called to verify Char's hours. Also found out from Char that she gets college credit for this class. So, this teacher is running a college class. Yeah for what college?
Two more days and we get two months off from this school. Then four years of hell. Then seven years off. We have eight more years of this school. What are the chances that the administration will change?
Called the principal twice and many versions of the teachers story and we got what we needed. Found out that the teacher never called to verify Char's hours. Also found out from Char that she gets college credit for this class. So, this teacher is running a college class. Yeah for what college?
Two more days and we get two months off from this school. Then four years of hell. Then seven years off. We have eight more years of this school. What are the chances that the administration will change?
Gates-Chili strikes again!
Hope all the fathers out there had a great fathers day! Ours was pretty awesome until yesterday at 8:30 p.m.
We had my father and Jaime's family over for a cookout. We were all talking and they were meeting Char's new boyfriend when my phone rang. Now remind you this all happened at 8:30 PM(!). On the phone was Ms. Stevens, Char's peer leadership teacher. She told me that she did not get all of Char's final project and that she had until Monday at noon to hand it in. I said that Char was going to be at work at that time and that we would email it to her. She said that Char would not be able to hand it in. She said that Char knew what she had to hand in. So, Char and I sat down (me as a transcriptionist) and got the report done.
Jaime told Char to call Ms. Stevens to make sure that is all she needed to do. Good idea as when Char called back Ms. Stevens now said that she owed 14 journal entries. What? Char said that she emailed them to her. Char went back to email and they were not there. She called Ms. Stevens back and then Ms. Stevens told her that she had none of Char's project. Jaime then proceeded to get on the phone again and wrote down everything that Char needed.
There was one part of the project that Char did not have the instructions for so she called Ms. Stevens again to find out what she needed to do. At that time Ms. Stevens said that she did not have with her exactly what Char needed as it was at school. So, what you are telling me is that you wait until the last minute to tell us that Char does not have everything in and you have no clue what it is she needs to hand in?
Fast forward to this morning. Jaime and Char go to school at 6:30 to hand in all the re-worked project. They get there and the teacher says that Char has yet another thing to add to this project and that the teachers that she volunteered for did not email her that she did her hours. Now, this is very hard to believe as the two teachers that she volunteered with have been working with Char for the whole year so they know that Ms. Stevens need this information. Also, WHY DID WE NOT KNOW THIS UNTIL NOW!!!?!?!?!?!?!?!
I am so ticked off it is not funny. I have lost my voice (not from yelling and screaming). Char has a 504 plan in place and this teacher is in total violation of this. If Char was not graduating (which at this point in time is in serious jeopardy), I would raise holy hell. All I have to say is that Toria and Jaimison is not going to have this teacher at all. Thank God she only teaches health and some elective classes. It is will be easy to avoid her.
We had my father and Jaime's family over for a cookout. We were all talking and they were meeting Char's new boyfriend when my phone rang. Now remind you this all happened at 8:30 PM(!). On the phone was Ms. Stevens, Char's peer leadership teacher. She told me that she did not get all of Char's final project and that she had until Monday at noon to hand it in. I said that Char was going to be at work at that time and that we would email it to her. She said that Char would not be able to hand it in. She said that Char knew what she had to hand in. So, Char and I sat down (me as a transcriptionist) and got the report done.
Jaime told Char to call Ms. Stevens to make sure that is all she needed to do. Good idea as when Char called back Ms. Stevens now said that she owed 14 journal entries. What? Char said that she emailed them to her. Char went back to email and they were not there. She called Ms. Stevens back and then Ms. Stevens told her that she had none of Char's project. Jaime then proceeded to get on the phone again and wrote down everything that Char needed.
There was one part of the project that Char did not have the instructions for so she called Ms. Stevens again to find out what she needed to do. At that time Ms. Stevens said that she did not have with her exactly what Char needed as it was at school. So, what you are telling me is that you wait until the last minute to tell us that Char does not have everything in and you have no clue what it is she needs to hand in?
Fast forward to this morning. Jaime and Char go to school at 6:30 to hand in all the re-worked project. They get there and the teacher says that Char has yet another thing to add to this project and that the teachers that she volunteered for did not email her that she did her hours. Now, this is very hard to believe as the two teachers that she volunteered with have been working with Char for the whole year so they know that Ms. Stevens need this information. Also, WHY DID WE NOT KNOW THIS UNTIL NOW!!!?!?!?!?!?!?!
I am so ticked off it is not funny. I have lost my voice (not from yelling and screaming). Char has a 504 plan in place and this teacher is in total violation of this. If Char was not graduating (which at this point in time is in serious jeopardy), I would raise holy hell. All I have to say is that Toria and Jaimison is not going to have this teacher at all. Thank God she only teaches health and some elective classes. It is will be easy to avoid her.
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